Why do you think hope is critical to long-term recovery?
Angela: In a world that’s filled with much confusion, and where so many things don’t make sense, I think the only way we can get anywhere, really, is with hope. However, that hope without action is just a thought. Hope is how we navigate through uncertainty. I think hope is the first step towards long-term recovery, but merely hope by itself is not enough. As we speak about hope, I can’t help but lean into faith. I think hope is the dream, and faith is the belief that a real change can occur. Everything in recovery is about the journey home to oneself; in life so often we are focused on what we want to do, and recovery is about who we can be. Even the word ‘recovery’ is about the act of recover-ING something. It’s about recovering the unlimited potential of who you can be in this lifetime. That process begins with hope.
Why do you think support systems are so effective at helping individuals in recovery find hope?
Aaron: Support systems give you something to aim for. Whether you’re one day sober or seven years sober, spending time with people who have more time than yourself gives you hope. Realizing that those individuals have been through so much, and that they’ve done it sober, makes you realize it’s possible for you to achieve the same. When you’re newly sober, the feeling of hope when you find a support group is indescribable. Surrounding yourself with people who are living fulfilling lives, free of drugs and alcohol, brings hope. After all, getting sober is about much more than just ceasing the use of drugs and alcohol. It’s about finding happiness and maintaining hope; and that is something that’s much more likely to happen if you have a support group.
How do support systems help parents and families find hope?
Angela: Support groups reduce stigma. I think that one of the biggest fallacies we have as humans is that what we’re experiencing is unique. A support system minimizes the shame and normalizes the situation. What this means, simply spoken, is that I get to sit in a room with somebody else who understands how I feel, and is either experiencing what I’m going through as well, or already has. That connection is the beginning of a solution. So often, families cannot get to the solution phase of recovery because they’re blinded by the shame of feeling inadequate as a parent. A support group is how many parents can finally take a deep breath and realize that they’re not alone in this – there are other parents who love their children and did they best they could, and those families were still faced with addiction. There is a relief in this realization; and in that relief is a surrender, and from that surrender comes a start.
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